Jealousy
Why am I so jealous? The world we live in today does nothing but encourage envy and jealousy.
Through social media, advertising, and the idolization of success, it constantly fosters this feeling.
From childhood, the idea that you must be the best, that you must do more, is continuously reiterated and emphasized in all areas.
And sooner or later, this leads to the anguish of jealousy; we become jealous of anyone who has more than we do.
We grow up with the desire to succeed, whether as artists or businessmen.
As long as this envy is compensatory and a source of pleasure, it is accepted, but when it becomes unbearable and painful, we try to get rid of it, we strive to fight our way out of this feeling.
But the truth is, we want to possess things, and very often, people. Both are used for our psychological satisfaction.
The Attachment
Before to answer to the question why am I so jealous, we should note that jealousy pop up when we are psychologically dependent on something or someone else.
Therefore, jealousy is purely a symptom, an effect, of an underlying cause.
The fact is, there is fear, fear of who you are, or who you will be if others leave you, and for this reason, you develop attachment.
As long as that person or thing is present, exists, your attachment hides this fear, but it will remain buried deep within, whatever it may be.
Fear of feeling lost, insecure, unloved, or abandoned… whatever it is, fear should not be hidden by labeling ourselves as jealous, envious, or selfish.
Condemning or justifying ourselves only hides the problem and prevents us from looking at what lies behind the fear.
So let’s stop punishing or justifying ourselves and start digging inside ourselves with clarity, honesty, and transparency, without judgment.
Let’s accept who we are, and if we don’t like it, let’s try to change it, one step at a time, starting from within, starting with our emotional states.
Believe it or not, you can influence the state of your emotions. Not only that, but the actions we take, the results we achieve, are the fruits of our emotional states.
Change your mind, change your life
It’s obvious that if we feel angry, jealous, or envious, no positive action such as a smile, an affectionate gesture, or a leap of joy can come from these emotional states.
But if even in those moments we force ourselves to counter these negative emotions with their positive opposites, then even our body can change its inner state.
For example, forcing yourself to smile when you’re sad or being kind to those around you when you’re actually angry can lead your body to change its inner state and truly feel those positive emotions.
In short, we can choose how to feel!… and change our reality.
The reality we build around ourselves every day, whether we like it or not, is the result of our actions, our thoughts.
How do you overcome fear? That’s a path for you to take; it’s a personal and introspective journey.
Start by anchoring yourself to the certainties you have, by being grateful for what you have.
Focus on the essentials, savor each moment, simply being thankful that you’re alive, and enjoy every breath of the miracle that is life.